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A huge part of the success of the whole ordeal was that

A Huge Part Of The Success Of The Whole Ordeal Was That

A huge part of the success of the whole ordeal was that I was as calm and confident as possible and totally open about how I felt about the whole thing

So I just had my very first talk with my first girlfriend since I broke up with the ex who infected me with GSV2. We’ve been seeing each other for about a month and for about two weeks of that time I was agonizing over working up the courage to have the talk with her.

I showed up at her place with two beers and said there was something we needed to have a drink over and talk about. Throughout the whole thing, I just stayed calm and confident and tried to explain everything to her in the clearest way I could. I was completely honest about how embarrassed I was to have to talk to her about it and how it was a worry of mine that she’d think less of me as a person. I said I felt like I wanted to apologize to her, but that there really wasn’t anything I had to apologize for, that it was something that just happened.

I knew she was an understanding person and cared a lot about me, but I thought for sure she would still be a little shocked and skeeved out by the whole thing at best, and totally freaked out at worst.

Absolutely wrong! She couldn’t have been more understanding and compassionate about it. She thanked me profusely for telling her, and said she couldn’t imagine how hard it must have been for me to bring that up, that she completely respects me for having done that, and that the only way she’d think less of me as a person would be if I didn’t tell her. To cap it all off, she said “does this mean we get to have sex now?! I want to now even more than I did before”!

To her credit, she really is an amazingly understanding person, but I think a huge part of the success of the whole ordeal was that I was as calm and confident as possible and totally open about how I felt about the whole thing. I know not every situation is the same, but as someone who had been agonizing about doing this for the first time, my hope is that this brings a little hope to anyone in the same situation. Life goes on! Love goes on.

Comment originally published on the Honeycomb Herpes Support forums.

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