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I hope at least one person can read this a get a little piece of mind. I know it’s hard to picture yourself being happy with herpes, but it is possible!

I Hope At Least One Person Can Read This A Get A Little Piece Of Mind. I Know It’s Hard To Picture Yourself Being Happy With Herpes, But It Is Possible!

When i was diagnosed with HSV1 on my genitals a little over a year ago, I thought that my love life was doomed. I honestly thought that there was no possible way that anyone could ever love me and the thought of actually having to tell someone scared the crap out of me.

I started talking to Jared 7 months ago. I’ve known him since middle school, but we didn’t stay friends. He lives a few states away so all we ever did was text and talk on the phone. We had an immediate connection and before i knew it he was in my town to see me. We weren’t dating yet, however, we were well on our way. Fighting back the urge to have a sexual connection when he was in my bed was extremely hard. I knew that i could never have sex with a man ever without telling him about my herpes first. I wish i had had the choice of getting herpes or not so i’m not willing to deprive someone of their choice. We had an amazing, g-rated week and next thing i knew he was flying me down to see him. By the time i flew to see him, we were officially dating. I was crazy about him and scared at the same time. It’s not easy to have the burden of knowing you’re going to have to tell someone you really care about that you have herpes. The last night i was with him, he tried to have sex with me. I told him i couldn’t and that was that. A couple days later he asked me why i did that, fearing there was something wrong with him. I knew at that point that it was time to tell him. I wrote him a nice, honest and long email explaining that i really care about him and i told him about my herpes. I didn’t know what to expect and it was very hard on me emotionally to be able to tell someone my secret. He called me minutes later and told me he read my e-mail and that he doesn’t care. He said that he likes me for me and me having herpes doesn’t change how he feels about me at all. What a relief!! I half expected to never hear from him again.

I wanted to write this blog, because when i was diagnosed with herpes i went on a rampage searching for forums of people with success stories about finding love despite herpes. I had to know that it was possible to be loved with this virus. After having herpes for a little over a year and meeting an amazing guy who doesn’t care what i have, i now know first hand that herpes doesn’t control me. It doesn’t control anyone and you shouldn’t let it.

I hope at least one person can read this a get a little piece of mind. I know it’s hard to picture yourself being happy with herpes, but it is possible!

 

Comment originally published on the Honeycomb Herpes Support forums.

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