Herpes online dating sites are virtual places where you can meet someone who is also living with the Herpes virus.
As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are. What others say is irrelevant.
Why is it a good idea?
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- Meeting someone online who is suffering from the same affliction as yourself could be a great source of comfort, especially if you’re feeling low and unable to deal with the world outside of your door. You don’t need to meet them face to face but if you do, you share something in common anyway, and there is little need for that awkward talk that you would have to face if you were to be with a person who doesn’t have the virus and is possibly ignorant about it.
~ - Sharing something with someone is a great way to bond and make new and hopefully lasting relationships. The more we have in common with someone, the more we want to express our feelings and concerns, which can lead to a very healthy relationship indeed. Knowing that you both have Herpes can help you come to terms with it and completely accept yourself and your partner and be totally at ease with each other. You’re in this together.
~ - It’s a great way to avoid being a social recluse at the times when your outbreaks are apparent or even severe. Meeting someone from a Herpes dating site means you don’t have to hide yourself away because the likelihood is the other person has an outbreak or at least they understand it and don’t care or even react to it because it’s a part of their own life too.
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Why could it be a bad idea?
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If you use the website in the correct way and for the right purpose you shouldn’t have any problems at all and it’ll be a happy addition to your life. However, there are some things you should avoid before even considering the usage of such a site.
- It’s not the be all and end all. If you’re really keen on using it to meet people with the same virus, you really shouldn’t make it the centre of your entire universe. Don’t neglect your friends and family just because they don’t suffer from what you suffer from. They are still people who love and understand you. Also, living through the internet and only meeting people you have found in a virtual environment could lead to a pretty sad existence. Don’t forget to connect with other people in your world. They’ve been with you for a long time.
~ - Don’t ever believe it’s the only choice you have left. Maybe you’ve dated a few individuals in the past who haven’t been supportive of what you are dealing with, be it type 1 or 2, and understandably you’d much prefer someone who lives with it too. But don’t discount everyone, maybe you just haven’t found that right person yet, not everyone is so narrow-minded or stubborn.
~ - Don’t ever meet someone from the virtual world without telling anyone in your physical world. Even if you feel like you can’t talk to anybody about why you want to meet someone you met online, you should always at least give them the details of where you are, and that you will ring them to make sure you are safe. Safety online is paramount and therefore you should always be sure to arrange it so your first contact with someone is in a public place. You should do this the first few times. Until you really feel like you know this person. You never can be too careful. Entering into the unknown can be scary, so take precautions.
~ - Don’t let people you meet take advantage of you. Knowing that you are both sufferers should make it easy to have that conversation upfront. And understanding what the other person wants from you is vital. You both might have completely distinct ideas about what you want out of this ‘relationship’. Avoid getting hurt by making this conversation the pinnacle of your first meeting.
~ - Never give out your personal details online. First of all because you really don’t know who you are talking to and secondly, you never know who can access such information. Keep all of this for when you meet safely in the physical world.
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