Whatever life takes away from you, let it go. When you surrender and let go of the past, you allow yourself to be fully alive in the moment..
Those raw emotions that you might be unwilling to admit at the time of Herpes continue. It’s a good thing to face them and be honest with yourself. Unfortunately, there is more at play than just embarrassment, paranoia and discomfort. Writing an honest list and thinking about tackling each one in turn is a productive way of dealing with these raw emotions. Bringing them to the surface means you’ll be unable to avoid them, which is way more healthier than what you’ve probably been doing.
Here are some more honest emotions that you might want to get thinking about
Shame: Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change
The tendency to let people make you feel like you’ve done something wrong.
If you have Herpes type A then you have probably had the virus from being a young child and so have nothing to be ashamed of. On the other hand, if you have the other type, this may be something you have contracted as an adult and therefore will have the tendency to let other people make you feel like a bad person. It can be an easy cycle to repeat but identifying that none of this is your fault is much easier to take, and also more true. But how can you really make yourself believe that you are not at fault?
Because a lot of people who don’t suffer from herpes are ignorant about the virus and how it is contracted, they can indirectly make you feel like you are to blame for having it. And if you are displaying symptoms, well, that is certainly your fault, according to them. The most important point to focus on is that these people are uneducated. So do we educate or ignore? It all depends on who those people are to you. If it’s a significant other then that person is in your life and should not make you feel bad. They are someone who just cannot hold a false belief. It’s all about changing the way people see things. Everyone has gaps in their knowledge. If it’s just glances you get from strangers on a bus or mere acquaintances you have to meet for work, then who cares? They are only in your life for a split second. They do not make your life beautiful. They serve to show you the ignorance in the world and so you should feel sorry for them that they are not more clued up. One day, they may be in a similar position.
Regret: you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future
A feeling of looking back and wanting to change something that has already passed.
You might be regretting something for many different reasons. Maybe you regret someone else’s actions when you were younger and weren’t in control. Maybe you wished you had been in control of who came near you when you were younger and maybe that virus wouldn’t display itself now. Or maybe you’re regretting a sexual encounter that caused you to suffer afterwards. Either way regret is regret and the nature of it is unchangeable.
Wishing and willing that you could change something is only going to make you think less of yourself as a person, and this will only increase the amount of outbreaks you have. It will stress you out for sure. The regret that would serve you well is that of failing. Failing to live life’s journey to the fullest. Mistakes and regrets are the things that shape you and time spent without them is a time spent in a state of obliviousness, where you don’t have the drive or ambition to make a few errors. Everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes are an important part of learning.
Fear: There are two basic motivating forces – fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance
You’re worried and scared about what people might think or say to you.
Fear can be downright awful, it’s true. In terms of Herpes, fear might smother you when you leave your house, it might even stay with you indoors even, because you’re worried that your significant other/friend/person living with you will see you in a different light. You may well be waiting for them to say something negative to you about your outbreak. Or you may be scared of the thoughts that are running through their head.
What you need to do is compartmentalize a little. Separate the important from the unnecessary. Who cares what someone else thinks? Are you going to spend all of your life on the edge wondering when someone is going to voice an opinion they have of you? You might be waiting a long time. Forever perhaps. What you should be fearful of is not living. Living a life full of missed opportunities through fear has to be the scariest thing of all.